In exciting news for Mindy Kaling (I keep calling her ‘Lahiri’ in my mind) fans, she has a new book out which I’m reviewing today! Whoop whoop! I got it as an audiobook on audible and listening to her read it made me very happy and also made it easier to get through. I love audiobooks. I really like that I can ‘read’ a book while I cook or clean.
I reviewed Mindy’s first book before, here and while I thought there were a lot of funny parts, I thought she wasn’t really being ‘honest’ with a lot of what she said. I think I called it “a reluctant memoir”. Well, this book is different. It is refreshingly honest on a wide array of subjects from how she really feels about her body, to her mother’s death and her ‘weird’ relationship with ex BJ Novak (see chapter titled “soupsnakes”). She even mentions a fling she had with a White House aide! You guys! She talks about wanting to be liked a lot and how adulthood has caused her to start focusing on letting people actually know her.
At the end of this book, I loved Mindy more. I now also really respect her and I learned from her as well. I highly recommend this especially for fans of Mindy or people who want to try these new age type memoirs. Another great one is Yes, Please by Amy Poehler which I also reviewed here.
About wanting to be liked and trying hard to be.
I’ve always put a lot of energy and effort into people liking me, that’s why I’ve never understood the compliment “effortless”. People love to say “she just walked into the party, charming people with her effortless beauty”. Well, I don’t understand that at all. What’s wrong with effort anyway? It means you care. What about the girl who walked into the party, her determination to please eager on her face?
The truth is, it’s hard to get people to like you but it’s even harder to keep people liking you.
On Fashion & Getting On-Fleek Hair
I have to pick my appearance battles. If you’re Natalie Dormer, you can take big fashion risks and shave half your head and it still looks good. If you’re a normal person and you try that, it just looks like you had recent brain surgery.
Cinch together the whole look with a wide belt was a very popular style in the early 2000’s which we believed accentuated our curves but in reality made a generation of young women look like we were wearing lumbar support braces.
About College & Sorority girls
So much of college is girls labeling other girls terrible things when they don’t like their behavior but using concerned language so they have plausible deniability if they get accused of being bitches.
How Fame has Changed Mindy:
I want to be a better person because I do not want to disappoint those girls. I stop and think about my actions now. I tip great and I try not to swear too much… and all that stuff I do to appear better has actually made me a better person.
About exercising post baby:
If I gave birth naturally (never going to happen) I will never sit on a bike again.
Mindy’s thoughts on the Potluck tradition:
I believe the potluck tradition of entertaining is the equivalent of a teenage boy wanting to have sex with his girlfriend but who is too scared to go to CVS to buy condoms.
About not waiting to be mentored:
Take your mentoring wherever you can find it, whether it’s being offered to you or not. If you get the chance to observe someone at their work, you are getting mentored, whether or not they’re aware. Get close enough to “steal their wifi”
I’m the kind of person who becomes silent when I get scared because I hope death will not notice me if I am very still and very quiet.
If someone really wants to see you, they always find a way.
Mindy & her body (confidence)
My deep dark secret is that I absolutely try to conform to normal standards of beauty. I’m just not remotely successful at it.
When Mindy went on a diet:
I also began to have some pretty disturbing attitudes toward eating: I developed a real superiority complex to those who eat ACTUAL food. I realize this is how fashion editors must feel.
Why she believes there’s no such thing as being a workaholic:
I don’t understand how you could have self confidence if you don’t do the work.
This book was such a joy. It’s a light fun read and her view on certain issues is interesting even though I didn’t necessarily always agree.
Four out of five stars for this one!