Lessons

Hey guys!
How is everyone doing today? How was your week? I hope you all had a great week. I had a good week, for the most part. You know, I always wait till Saturdays to write about my week. I find that looking at things after taking a step (or two) back really helps. You see things that you never would’ve seen in the heat of the moment, you can evaluate things you said and plan better responses for the future. You come to appreciate things that went wrong and you can see clearly the lessons learnt. You make peace with spilled milk and decide to do better. I wait till Saturdays because I want to keep the blog unbiased and drama free. I want to have a lesson or more from every week to share. I like to see the humor in every thing and my personality is such that I’m rarely able to do this in the heat of the moment. I can be quite serious. I see the quirky stuff when I take a step back and ramble a bit.
I learnt so much this week and I’m having trouble coming up with a title for this post. The highlights of my week would have to be:
1. Reuniting with my favorite threesome, my best girlfriends from college and just gabbing about nothing and everything for three hours straight. I miss them so much. They’re all in different time zones and we ended the conversation promising to have regular catch up sessions (fingers crossed). The next day, I had a lengthy conversation with my best girlfriend here and she had the same experience- catching up with an old friend. And she had the same feelings of pure joy and just hopefulness that they would indeed stay in touch as promised. In both our cases, these were people we hadn’t spoken to in quite a while and when we did talk, it was just like old times, like nothing had changed. My lesson : With real friends, time is just an illusion. It always feels like no time has passed. There might be initial (5 minute) awkwardness that comes with re acquaintance, but then it feels just like old times. So if you had a true friend, a real friend, don’t let time or distance be a barrier. Try to stay in touch. Maybe not daily or weekly conversations, but check up on each other, send sweet messages. Be there. Be present in spirit. It feels wonderful.
2. Having my cousin over for a night. I’m the kind of person who loves her space. I like my company. I like to have time to ponder every scenario. To imagine stories. To listen to music. Read. And just breathe. No voices. Just my thoughts. I discovered that people time can be good as well. I  mean I have people time normally, just not with so many people and not so often. But being with someone else, cooking for an extra mouth or just asking if they need something felt nice. I mean if it was for three weeks, I might get tired, I know. All I’m saying is it helps to think of someone other than yourself sometimes. We all need time. Everyone should learn to like their company. To love their company. But we need people every once in a while. Just so we don’t forget how to feel.
3. Opinions are just that, opinions. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. Your opinions do not have to become someone else’s rules. I can’t exactly say why or from what situations I learned this. I can say that I learned this from both myself and other people. I’ve always been very opinionated. Not so vocal about my opinions, but opinionated all the same. I’d rather write what I think than say it. Only certain people’s opinions actually matter to me. I don’t need to say all of their names, but they know that their opinions matter and they don’t throw around their words carelessly because they know their words matter. A ton of people’s opinions actually mean nothing to me but I’m not going to throw that in their faces because while their opinions do not matter, they have a right to have one. My point? Respect everyone’s opinions but only a few should shape you. And if you know your opinion matters to a person, don’t throw hurtful words at them or be dishonest with them because they’re counting on your honesty. And sometimes if your opinion isn’t asked (when it isn’t a life or death issue) swallow your opinion.
4. This week, someone told me they were inspired by the music on the page of one of the (many, I know) social networks I’m on. She called it ”my music”. I was floored. I immediately went to see what songs were on there. I couldn’t help thinking how we affect others by our words, actions, dressing, music, poems and everything else. It’s amazing how we all have an opportunity to INSPIRE. We should never take this for granted. You never think that anyone is watching you. Or going through your phone or ipod. Or reading your blog. But there’s someone, for everyone. Maybe it’s one little person, a younger sibling, a friend. Anyone. Live like the world is watching and learning. There’s someone watching all of us. We may not inspire Him, but we make him proud. Live to inspire.
5. Thank you. So many people met me this week and went ”you didn’t tell me you had a blog!”. Even my closest friends!. And my number of views here skyrocketed. Thank you. For reading all the silly rambling. And if you made it down here. I write more poems nowadays because I’m terrified of saying how I actually feel in real sentences now that I know I good number of people actually read this thing.Thank you again. I appreciate it. Sorry for all this deep talk and emotional rambling. I was feeling inspired. I’m looking forward to hearing from anyone who would be willing to add their thoughts to any of the things I wrote about in this post. Experiences..in person, on Facebook or your comments here.
Have a lovely week guys! And remember to inspire. Not to bring others down. Just inspire, And love. And laugh. And be happy. xx

***P.S Please listen to Justin Timberlake’s ”Mirrors” here. That song just became my Number 1 feel-good song!!



  • Ify

    Lessons are beautiful.
    Lessons are for LIFE.
    Lessons should not be taken lightly,
    For Lessons are there to brighten,
    The sometimes dark and solitary path,
    We tread in life.
    I like this your post very much. Well done and keep up the good work inspiring others.